Today I was reminded that there is so much evil in the world I live in. Not that I didn’t know or wasn’t aware but just, as always, when something happens right in your face, you are forced to acknowledge the fact and face it.
“So many heartless people”, I thought to myself as I was bleeding in my basement. You think you know somebody but, most likely, you don’t.
Sometimes you might wonder, how come for every 10 good people, there is this one who doesn’t deserve to be called “human”.
Today I was reminded again what unconditional love is. I saw terror in my little boy’s eyes when he scratched me to get away from bad memories, bad experience, the terror that a harmless folded carpet reminded him of.
It doesn’t take a university degree to figure out – somebody had hurt him before he came to our house. My eyes teared up. Not from deep bloody wounds in my forearms but from a thought about what could have happened to my little kitty to make him so skittish.
Cats love tunnels and boxes but my boy is avoiding most of them or is extremely cautious and never fully gets in if the box is tight or if you try to put him in there.
I know, karma is a bitch and I can fully rely on her to pay back with all the goodness she can come up with to repay for whatever the person did to him. My bloody arms are just a reminder to love and give him a safe place to grow old. We will figure this out and put it behind us.
My boy might have beaten me up pretty good and he might have made me bleed but he also reminded me that I have a choice – to become a part of the solution by not turning a blind eye.
My boy also reminded me that there are people out there who will inflict pain onto others to get away from their own internal pain and there are people out there who enjoy hurting animals and people because they get joy out of it.
Even though my first reaction is anger, I choose to rely on Karma to figure out who deserves what because I do not have time to hate and waste my precious life on people like that. I have better things to do. Things like earning trust and love of my little boy and sharing precious moments of my life with him and his adoptive sister.
I could waste my life by focusing on anger and that way also waste my TODAY. I choose to let go of the past and build a better future by living every moment today.
There are other good people who will come for those who deserve to be punished for their wrong doings and animal abuse.
This is the most insensitive thing I have said this week. It might be insensitive but, unfortunately, it is as true as it gets.
Cruel reality reminds us almost on a daily basis how fragile and unpredictable your life is. Life doesn’t hold back. There is no pause before something happens. There is no memo sent out to warn you. There is no “heads up”.
Every day you wake up and go on with your routine. You get angry if something or somebody interferes with your flow, but, I guess, every person needs certain structure in their life.
We all are self centered egotistical beings no matter what you say. Even the most selfless gesture is still self-centered behaviour. You do it because you feel it is the right thing to do. It makes you feel good. It makes you respect yourself. It makes you sleep better at night. You did the right thing and didn’t expect anything back.
As older you get as more people start dying around you. When you are younger, you don’t pay much attention to that. And as older you get, as more guilt you start feeling. Guilt about decisions that you have made or not made.
Decisions like – meeting up with that old friend, or writing that email that you have thought about for years, maybe even making that phone call . You know exactly what I am talking about. It lingers in the air, you think about it, you almost come close to doing it but then you either find an excuse or something gets in your way.
Yes, this post is written because, again, I made a conscious decision to post pone a meeting with a friend and now I will never have that opportunity given to me again. I might stand by the grave of this friend, crying or talking, but I will never be able to hug this person or smile at them and say – nice to catch up.
I can find all kinds of excuses why I did not try harder but it will not do any good. This situation keeps repeating itself and I keep finding myself regretting the excuse – I will do it later.
Life keeps teaching me a lesson that there might not be “later” but I am too slow to learn. Every time something happens, I reflect, I feel guilty, I make promises to myself that I will never do that again, and I keep hitting my head against the same wall and wondering why.
Yes, it is just a journey. And, yes, death is a part of life that nobody will escape. And, yes, as they say – shit happens. It, however, doesn’t change the fact that I choose not to go with the flow of life and try to make choices that will lead me to the place that I think I need to be at.
This place is just a vague idea and if you ask me, I have no clue where that is. I have no clue how it looks like but somehow I still make decisions that I think are more important than they actually are.
I know, it all sounds so philosophical and better people have expressed the same thought in more sophisticated words but one thing is for sure – we need to stop bullshitting ourselves with fake convictions and imaginary happiness.
Just be real, be you, live….and say goodbye to those you care about as they might go any minute without any warning.
You hear it all the time – love always wins. No, it doesn’t. You know it, I know it, and everyone else knows it. It is true only in movies and books.
Yes, it is hard to admit that love can’t solve all the problems. However, it is even harder to admit that you have no clue what your life or love is all about. I am not even talking about which person is Love of your life. I am talking about such a simple thing as knowing yourself.
Knowing yourself sometimes seems the hardest thing to accomplish but it is the base for everything that you will build from this day forward.
Love – such a beautiful word.
Love – such an amazing feeling (well, at least the first part of it – being in love). Love sometimes hurts.
Love – such a magical state to thrive for.
Love – not the answer to your existence problems.
The answer is – it is whatever you want it to be. Yes, it is as simple as that. No matter what the question is, the answer is always whatever you want it to be.
How about love? What about it? Love is your choice. Love is Acceptance and The End Result of your journey.
There are multiple journeys you will take throughout your life.
- A journey to self-discovery. This one is a never ending story. Most of the time, no idea where it ends but it always is a morphing, developing, and a changing thing that you can’t catch up with.
- A journey to a short term goal. Hundreds, maybe even thousands of short-term goals. Things like buying something, getting a house or a car, adopting a cat or a dog, taking a class or getting a certificate, finding a new job, and etc.
- A journey to become a better person. This is, more or less, a journey of learning life lessons and changing your understanding of the world and people around you.
- A journey of your life. If there is a beginning, there is an end. The many paths you take, the many experiences you have, the many thoughts and feelings you encounter. There is no right or wrong, there is just a path you walk and choices you make. Every path is unique, every choice is the best you could have made at that point in time with the knowledge you had. And the journey will end….Nobody has escaped that.
Love for life itself is still not the answer to your problems but is the answer to something bigger. Love is just a side effect you experience when you allow yourself be. Love is, in other words, the peace in your heart, acceptance of circumstances, acceptance of as-is state at any point in time.
When you have doubts about anything, just let it go. Things will sort themselves out.
The silliest thing ever is that – no, Love won’t always win, Life will. The flow of things are not built around human beliefs that LOVE always wins, it is built around the fact that Life is just a combination of random events that might or might not be caused by your decisions.
Once you accept this randomness, love or state of content will become the answer. It will not be the tool, but it will be the state of mind you are in.
Life is so short to sweat the small stuff. However, the big stuff is not necessary something that we are aware of. When you think about it, you think you feel it, you imagine it, but you still can’t fully verbalize what that place is that you wish for.
They say – dream big. Well, what are you supposed to dream about? A good career? Children? Family? Big house? A very expensive car? Oh, I know, happiness and inner peace…
Yeah, but, again, who in the world can define what happiness is when nobody knows? So, long story short, we are homesick for a place that doesn’t exist. We are homesick for a feeling that is either created by us or someone in our lives. Feeling that we so desperately are seeking but never find. It is just never enough…
Somehow, today, right here right now, not many people know what it means to live and enjoy every moment that they are given. They appreciate everything they have experienced and achieved but they still judge and wish for something better.
It is hard to accept the fact that there is nothing wrong with your world. Everything is exactly the way it should be. Maybe not pleasant, maybe full of pain and disappointment, and maybe not deserved but exactly the way it should be.
“Oh, hell no, I am not a criminal..” you’d want to say. Let’s be honest, yes, you are. We all are thieves, murderers, manipulators, cheaters, abusers, and etc.
Just because you have never been convicted of any offenses, doesn’t mean you are not a criminal.
Let’s look at this. What and who is a criminal?
Definition of criminal. 1 : being guilty of an act that is unlawful, foolish, or wrong.
Have you ever said something to somebody that left them heart-broken?
Have you ever repeated something that someone else said at work and ended up being in the right place, right time, and were heard by the right people?
Have you ever lied to someone so you can benefit from it? Don’t deny it. At some point in time, you lied to yourself, lied to your parents, lied to your partner, lied to your co-workers, lied to the neighbor, lied at the bank, and etc…
Have you ever said or did something that destroyed (emotionally, spiritually) somebody’s dreams, life?
Have you ever hit somebody or pushed somebody intentionally?
In other words, just because you have not been prosecuted for moral crimes or physical or emotional abuse, doesn’t mean that you are not a criminal. You are…
Some crimes are punishable by jail, some by lethal injection, and some just slip through the cracks.
Moral crimes are not causing less damage. They just leave deeper scars.
We tend to harm ourselves and people around us. You break promises and leave people heart-broken. You steal somebody else’s ideas and present them as yours. You are verbally abusive to others; sometimes they deserve it and sometimes they don’t but it is still not right. You cheat, you lie, you manipulate.
We justify our moral crimes…
How much pain can one heart take? – I asked. Depends on the heart, depends on the pain, depends on who or what caused it.
None of those answers made me feel better till I read something on the Internet. It was an older man who wrote about grieving his loved ones .
“…I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don’t want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don’t want it to “not matter”. I don’t want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love.…”
If you are lucky, you will have many scars from many loves. You will drown, you will sink, you will be beaten down, you will be broken, but you will survive. Wounds will heal but emotional rollercoasters will come and go. As more you loved as more you lost as more you will appreciate every single day of love that is given to you.
Anniversaries will cause sadness and good memories; smells, places, sounds will remind you of everyone you lost but they will also remind you of happiness that you experienced and love that you shared.
So, I guess, when I think about this, I understand that I need to let myself be. Just shake it off, let the pain hurt, let the wounds heal, and appreciate the scars I have.
RIP in peace my little 6 month old foster. I can’t save all of you but I can definitely love all of you for as long as you have left – be it 5 days or be it the rest of your life.
And I thought to myself:” Thank you for reminding me not to get sucked into the rat race too deep.”
I don’t know about you, but when somebody tells me I am not taking life seriously, they are the last person I will take any advice from.
Life is too short to be a hamster in a wheel. It is too short not to spend it laughing, goofing around, and maybe sometimes spinning the wheel for the heck of it.
I like to keep my priorities straight. I am here to enjoy no matter what life brings me. I know I do not have much time. Yes, it might be 120 years or it might be just a day left but I am spending that given time the best way I can. I am laughing, I am smiling, and I am living while I am doing my job and working hard.
You can work hard and laugh while you are doing it. Being grumpy and dead serious doesn’t mean you do your job better and being silly and goofy doesn’t mean you are sloppy at what you do.
So, I am taking my life very seriously – not suffering, just enjoying.