About Me

“….I looked at myself in the mirror and said, “This is going to be hell of a ride”.  I was only twelve and much I knew about the turmoil of life I would have, but that was the day when it all changed…”

We all have a story to tell the world. It’s not like one story is better than others, but some of us feel that there might be something – a word, a sentence, a thought, that would make a difference in somebody’s life.

I know that things that I have gone through, emotions that I have experienced could have been different if only I had someone to talk to or I had a book to read. It all could have been less painful and I would have ended up less screwed up.

However, I am deeply thankful to everyone who has left footprints in my life and left me with choices to make. After all, you are the reason I am the way I am. Thank you!

My name is Dace (pronounced Dotsay) and I was born in a dinky country called Latvia thinking that my life’s purpose was to find a husband, get a white picket fence, produce a child or two, and get a dog (optional). If I was lucky, I would have gotten a husband with a car and a summer house somewhere by the beach on the Baltic Sea – the whole package to seal the deal and make my parents, relatives and my people (Latvians) happy.  However, there was a small…just a small problem. I was gay.

My story can be told in few sentences but the turmoil I have gone through to accept myself and live my life being true to myself, is worth a book. Why?  Because I believe that there is another girl or boy who is lost in the ocean of contradicting feelings and beliefs, and is looking for a ray of light that will make them feel not so alone.
Currently, I live in Canada with my partner of almost 8 years and I have a few things to share with this world. If whatever I have to say, helps at least one person or saves at least one soul from being lost, it is worth putting myself on a platter.
I have gone through ups and downs, through darkness and light and I have learned a lesson. Every single person that has come into my life has taught me something that helped me in my journey.  Either that was: anger, pain, happiness, love, or joy, it created me – a better me.

60 responses to “About Me”

  1. Paul Sonderman says :

    Just found your blog via Alpha and like it very much. I’m straight but pro gay. I’m just digging in, but will read more and return. You write well and your message is strong. Thanks for sharing it.

  2. Dace Sevcuna says :

    Thanks Paul for stopping by and dedicating your time to read what I have to say

  3. Stephanie Silberstein says :

    I’m glad you have this blog. I’m trying to help reduce the suicide rate among LGBT youth…my roommate was almost a statistic two years ago until she accepted who she was…and I think your blog helps people know they are not alone and gives them strength.

    • Dace says :

      thank you for your kind words. I wish I could help at least one person not to feel so alone and see the light at the end of the tunnel.

  4. me says :

    Wandered in + stayed to look around…I like your blog.

  5. Heather says :

    You are a truly amazing person, Dace! It takes a lot of courage sometimes to stand up and be yourself, and it is very inspiring to hear about your journey.

  6. Genevieve Nolet says :

    Thank you for your kind post on my entry on …a dance experience. I have read some of your words here and beleive that we have similar intentions with our craft. Cheers to love and light and expression! best regards
    Genevieve Nolet

  7. suzanne ross says :

    I love your photograph. You are so cute!

  8. The Fun Fearless Female says :

    You’re extremely inspirational Dace!!
    I will definitely be returning here frequently.

  9. 2 Girls Getting Married says :

    You.Are.Amazing. Thanks for stopping by my blog earlier, I’m hoping to keep up with you now!

  10. carolynpageabc says :

    Thanks for the suggestions re Canada… It’s a large country and there’s so much to see… 😉 I’ve read a number of your posts and find your candor so refreshing. There’s also a gentleness that will prove itself in your favour; as you already know, I’m sure. I am really taken by your willingness to ‘put yourself out there’ and be true to yourself…. What else can we be, if not ourselves? Once we accept that, what does it matter what anyone else thinks of us….. 😉

    • Dace says :

      thank you very much, Carolyn, for stopping by and for kind words. I honestly enjoyed reading your blog. It’s nice to see somebody challenge dogmas and beliefs. I am still chewing on what you have to say and once I am ready I will comment.

      thanks again!

      • carolynpageabc says :

        You see; we all have our own personal uniqueness with which to come to terms. Mine has been to accept my own particular differences… I have however; not without a long struggle…. 😉

  11. carolynpageabc says :

    Dace, I wish that you would post more; you make such good sense… I’ve nominated your blog for an award, no obligation; just a thank you… 🙂 http://abcofspiritalk.wordpress.com/2012/07/19/awards-from-some-wonderful-people/

    • Dace says :

      oh, Carolyn, you are too kind to me. You inspire me – your thoughts, your believes, your way of writing and making people think. If only a piece of your awesomeness could rub off on me, I would be in heaven…

      • carolynpageabc says :

        Oh wow, I’m stunned… Isn’t it strange how we don’t see ourselves as others see us…
        And the same applies to you too… I see you as such a great thinker; a great human champion; so honourable and dignified… I’m really glad to know you..
        (I still wish you’d post more tho…) 🙂 😉 🙂

  12. carolynpageabc says :

    Hi Dace,
    I’ve nominated you for The Tagging Blogathon…! 😉
    To learn more please visit –
    http://abcofspiritalk.wordpress.com/2012/10/01/the-tag-blogathon/

  13. liz says :

    Dace, thank you for your comment on my blog! I love meeting new people, and I feel like we’re gonna hit it off great. Hehe. 😉 I visited Lativa a few years ago, and it was a beautiful experience… so cool you are from there. I am totally interested in your coming out story, and how that worked (or didn’t work) in your home country. And, I too, have moved to another country to be with the girl of my dreams, so I look forward to finding out more about how you feel as an ex-pat, with a lesbian twist.

    I am truly looking forward to stalking your blog some!
    peace.

    • Dace says :

      I really enjoyed surfing through your blog. Still have a few things to read and think about. You are scaring me with that Stalker statement but I guess it could be mutual and then it makes it ok.
      Looking forward to making a new friend.

  14. Laura4NYC says :

    What an interesting “about me” page. Good you made it out of that small Latvian country town and explored the world! Cheers from New York!

  15. journeybesideme says :

    What great insight into who you are today. I too feel that same feeling that if my journey can help one person relate and see that it is ok, then it was all worth it. Thanks for sharing.

    • Dace says :

      thank you! You are absolutely right – we all have something that might help somebody. As more of us get out there and share our thoughts and feelings as more we will be able to reach those who needs this

  16. Alarna Rose Gray says :

    Good to meet you Dace – it sure is a hell of a ride, this thing we call life. Graet that you are sharing your story 🙂

  17. Naomi Baltuck says :

    So glad to meet you, Dace!

  18. Tetraplegic Bhoy says :

    It is always helpful to remember the lessons we have been taught by others along the way to wherever we are. I hope you realise that you will be helping to teach through this blog, even if you are not made aware of it.

    An excellent read.

    Best wishes from another very small country, Scotland

    Steven

    • Dace says :

      yes, Steven, I realize that we leave footprints in other people’s lives we want it or not. We all have so much to give – teach, inspire, encourage, learn and grow together…

      Thanks for stopping by

  19. terrytrekker says :

    Beautiful write up about yourself! I am impressed!

  20. thecategoricalhousewife says :

    Great to meet my Baltic sister. 😉

  21. Randy Garcia says :

    Great blog, thank you for sharing. Stay strong and inspired!

  22. Juris Kaža says :

    Dace, Kārtējais pierādījums – “Latvians are everywhere”. Forši, jauki, fantastiski laba angļu valoda. Uz priekšu!

  23. barbarafranken says :

    Hi Dacy… lovely honest blog and I love your journey into freedom… enjoying life just as it is… in each moment… I’ll enjoy popping in and out and catching up on your journey…. Barbara

  24. Prasad says :

    You have got a beautiful blog running here. Your vision and thoughts are indeed a revelation. Great work. Keep blogging. I will definitely hang around here a lot savouring the perfect cocktail of words that you offer.

  25. meticulousmick says :

    I cannot believe you are not originally from a non-english speaking country – your written skills in English are superb and puts most native english writers to shame. Nice to learn about you. MM 🍀

    • Dace says :

      oh, now you are just flattering. But thank you for leaving a comment. It is nice to hear that someone appreciates the way I express my thoughts.

  26. sweetlittlenetwork says :

    I’m pro people. I find it ridiculous that a person has to come out. Does a heterosexual person announce they like the opposite gender? Why does someone that likes the same gender have to make an announcement? It’s redundant! People are people, simple! Live as you live without feeling someone must announce or justify, just keep it indoors (PDA’s from any couple bothers me)

    • Dace says :

      I usually say – be yourself and be authentic. No matter what that means for you or somebody else. You are right, nobody should be announcing whom they feel attracted to. Respect me for who I am as a human being and not for whom I fall in love with.

  27. johannisthinking@wordpress.com; pedalpushingthoughts@wordpresss.com says :

    Yes, YOU are the one I remembered! YOU are a courageous person, Dace! I thought that when I first read you, and I think it again! Glad to see you are living your life, risking, making “magic” (read another of your posts) happen! I tried–but somehow it didn’t work this last time…but, I will continue to go forward…Your words encourage me! Also, don’t be so hard on your Mom—read your post about the WALL….Your Mom lived and experienced things differently than you…and climbed mountains you did not have to climb…and, just perhaps, you have the guts you do because of the sacrifices she made for you! Do I sound like an old woman? 😉
    I am sure you love your Mom…that is why you write so passionately about her. You do have to live your life and she has to live hers.
    Blessings and glad all is going well with you!
    janejohann126@gmail.com

    • Dace says :

      Don’t be so hard on yourself, my friend. “… I tried–but somehow it didn’t work this last time…but, I will continue to go forward.” – all you need to do is to be yourself.

      Sometimes you are ready for changes and sometimes you are not. When the right time comes, it will be easy and feel right. And if it doesn’t come, that means you were meant for other great things. Life is a journey and you are on one. I hope it is a hell of a ride – nothing to regret, more to enjoy, more to experience and more to look back and shake your head while smirking. 🙂

  28. Liena says :

    Paldies, Dace, par lieliskajiem, gudrajiem un sirsnīgajiem bloga ierakstiem! Lika aizdomāties un mudināja arī iekšēji sarosīties… varbūt šobrīd, kad dzimtenē “gejs” ir kļuvis par lamuvārdu nr.1, vajag mest slinkumu pie malas un arīdzan pievienoties blogosfērai? Nekad neesmu jutusi sevī vēlmi, dalīties ar savam domām tīmekļa vidē, bet Tavi ieraksti palaikam ir palīdzējuši mirkļos, kad šķiet tik grūti sekot nevis tam, ko saka postpadomju morāles garā dresētais saprāta kontroles mehānisms, bet gan tam, ko saka sirds un visa iekšējā būtība. Tātad jāņem virtuālais spalvaskāts un jāmēģina dalīties domās – ja nu izdodas viest cerību vēl kādā apjukušā dvēselē…

    • Dace says :

      Liena, lai arii kur esi un lai arii kaadi cilveeki tev ir apkaart, mees esam zinjeshi un iedvesmotaaji. Tava laime ir atkariiga tikai no tevis un taa, kaa tu izveelies savu dziivi dziivot.

      Vienmeer atradiisies niideeji, maaciitaaji, kauninaataaji. Bet tie ir tikai cilveeki, kuru dziives ir pakaljaa un kuru attieciibas nekaadaa zinjaa nav no laimiigaakajaam. TIe, kas ir laimiigi, neskataas apkaart un nemaaca citus, kaa jaadziivo.

      Ja tu juuti, ka tev ir kas sakaams un ka tas tev ir jaaizsaka skalji, taa, lai visi dzird, tad laipni luudzam blogotaaju ierindaas. Un lai veicas izplatiit pozitiivismu, jaukas domas un pie reizes pamainiit, kaadaa paarlieciibu. Vai vismaz radiit situaaciju, kur cilveeks aizdomaajas…

  29. Karin says :

    Hi Dace, I just read your story in Barbara Franken’s book with the selection of awakening stories and was impressed. What a journey! I am glad that I found your blog.
    Karin

  30. Michael33 says :

    Wonderful about page Dace.. Thank you so much for sharing it with us…

  31. Cezane says :

    I can somehow relate to your about section myself, this is a beautiful site, i look forward to reading more of your posts! cheers 🙂

    • Dace says :

      many many people indeed can relate to my story. It is not unique. It is just one of …

      • Cezane says :

        Ohkay, i look forward to checking your previous posts, added it to my to read list- bookmarked.
        Would you mind checking out my blog too ? Im kinda new here 🙂

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