Sometimes it seems like whatever you do, nothing makes sense. Any choice you make turns out to be a waste. Every freak out you have seems to be unnecessary. Every conversation you have had in your head that has communicated how you felt about somebody or something has always turned out to be not what you expected or wanted.
Sometimes I wonder if my life is really true and random. Even taking into consideration all the odds of things turning out to be 50 / 50, your way or something else, somehow everything you want or think would happen, almost always turns out to be the other way. At that point, you have to start questioning the reality and randomness of things.
If the odds were actually 50/50, at least once, whatever direction the conversation went in your head, it would have actually gone the way you wanted. But, the reality is, most of the time, it ends up being something else.
Honestly, how many times did you have a De Ja Vu and said: “no way, it actually turned out exactly how I imagined it would”?
I am not making any statements, I am just merely making an observation.
Most of the people follow rules, adopt beliefs, follow unwritten suggestions of what is right or wrong. Some question things. Some just do whatever. However, most of the people don’t even live. They are so consumed by what other people would think that all decisions they make are always based on what would others do and less on what would make them happy.
I guess, the biggest problem the society has today is the inability to determine what makes them happy. People are more concerned about the judgment of others and less about following their dreams and choosing the path that brings joy into their hearts.
Knowing that you have an undetermined amount of years or months or days or even hours to live, people still choose other people’s opinion over their own happiness. You just want to fit in and not be judged, you want to be accepted for who you are, don’t you?
It is almost like being dead. If you can’t follow your heart, if you can’t enjoy what you do, if you can’t be yourself, if you can’t love the person you fall in love with, if you can’t follow your dreams, you might as well be dead already.
The world is like an ant hill. Every single ant has its job already pre-determined. It was trained to do just that – to benefit the colony. Same goes for human beings. For the society, community, province or state or district or country to do well, there is a need for certain positions that need to be filled.
You always need people who do crapy jobs – cleaning, garbage removal, farm work, you need people to do middle-class jobs – clerk jobs, consultants, bankers, tellers, cashiers, teachers, rig workers, farmers, analysts, and etc, and then we have business owners, and then you just can’t live without the rich people who own the top of the wealth in the world, CEO’s, big pharma’s, oil & gas, manufacturers, mafia, and etc.
The bottom line is – you need all that for the society to be able to function. The Truth is, the society needs you to function but you do not need the society or its rules to be happy. If you play the game, you might be dead inside even before you actually die.
“….Have you ever quenched your thirst with an unfilled cup? Or drenched yourself completely in a heavy rainfall, under a clear azure sky?
Have you ever emotionally moved the heart of a heartless soul? Or became the soul of its bleak shadow, latched unto transience?
She may ask me how’s my day going, but all those lumps in my throat talk in tiny wisps of smoke, telling her that today feels like the first day of drowning….”
Those words dig deep and turn everything inside out.
It’s almost Christmas and I have been feeling like I am drowning for some time. The truth is, usually around holidays I have to start paying attention to how I feel and thoughtfully adjust the direction I go with my thoughts.
Some things are hard to change, especially the ones that have been engrained in me since early childhood. Christmas had never been a happy time. It always brought pain, sadness, emotional distress, and some level of depression.
As I figured that life is an amazing journey, I learned to not live in the past but use it as a guiding principal.
Realistically, as life is an ever changing river that can flow calmly one moment and become a raging rapids caring beast and, all it takes is a minute, we have to learn to float and enjoy the flow. You can’t control it, but you can control how you feel and how much enjoyment you can get out the journey.
You can choose to fear everything, you can choose to be afraid of all kinds of possibilities and spend your precious time worrying about what can happen, or you can trust that whatever comes is as enjoyable and as awesome as it can get.
It’s been years since I had an episode of sadness and it seems I can’t shake it off. Christmas don’t excite me, the spirit of holidays has not come, and the peace and harmony is nowhere to be found.
I just hope that this is time to reflect – the time when I need to stop, take a deep breath and check, if I am still authentic.
Day two out of 5 grabbing random words off posters or Google images.
One of the quotes that I read recently and that stuck with me is as follows:
“…there are two types of pain in this world. Pain that hurts you and pain that changes you…”
You and I already know that emotional pain is inevitable, the suffering is optional though.
When I ask myself what emotional pain means to me, it is always the same answer – Ego gets bruised.
Either somebody thought they were better than me or I didn’t get the credit for what I did, or nobody asked me, or someone doesn’t like me, or nobody invited me, or nobody knows who I am or…etc., it always comes down to Ego.
It’s not like you can get a pony to ride around and eat ice-cream for breakfast. Self-realization, self-esteem, ambitions, jealousy, ignorance, self-centered wants, and many more wants and needs contribute to who I have become and what I think I deserve.
I guess, the emphasis here is on: what I think I deserve!
Of course, there are so many stories of abuse, bullying, poverty, and inequality, and everyone should be treated equally and have a decent level of living, but this time it is not about that.
It is about what I think I deserve and what I really really, seriously, really really need and if I do not get it, I am hurt. And this pain, my friend, is classified as bruised Ego.
There are some tough decisions in this life. And you never know when you will have to make one.
It is so easy to judge somebody not knowing what they have gone through and why they are making decisions that you might not agree with.
You know it is hard to go through life without judgment. It is actually really hard just to look at things, people, events and not have an opinion on either it is good or bad, acceptable or not acceptable, moral or immoral.
It is even harder to admit that nobody has a clue how to live right because nobody knows what living right is. That is why you have cults, you have churches, you have KKK, you have groups of people who get together to come up with some kind of guidelines to make it easier to maneuver through life and everything that comes at you.
What does it have to do with my girlfriend having an abortion? Absolutely nothing. It was a blog entry written by a man who experienced hostility from “pro-life” supporters at the doors of an abortion clinic where he went to support his girlfriend.
He chooses to do something good for women who have made a tough choice. For every negative there is something positive. He was there watching, listening, and feeling when he realized how angry and blind some people can be. He chose no judgment approach and started giving positive support just by being there and listening if women needed to talk.
Then he took it even further, he started giving women flowers. Not as a congratulation but as an appreciation for being brave.
Some people will say that this man is brave. In his mind, he is riding a bull and wondering how the hell he got there and how the hell he is going to get out of this alive.
However, he still chooses good and he still chooses positive – no judgment. Just being there as much as he can just to be a little positive in the world of negative.
You do not need guidelines. You do not need a book or groups of people to tell you how to live. You do not need your own parents or relatives or church to tell you what’s right and what’s wrong or how you should live.
You should just stop judging yourself and others and start enjoying life the way it is – with good and bad in it, with happiness, sadness, pain, joy, love, loss . Listen to your heart….