Russian Lesbians got married in Canada on October 23, 2009.  Way to go girls!  It’s a dangerous way of provoking government and society, but necessary to raise awareness.
Former soviet union republics and Russia itself has not caught up to the rest of Europe and are quiet far from implementing laws that would protect Human Rights.  These women were denied the right to marry in their native Russia and they came to Canada, according to the United Press International.

 

This is actually great and I can’t stop laughing.  Russian law does recognize international marriages regardless of genders.  I would like to see how Russian officials are going to weasel out of this one as I can predict that when they return home, girls will seek official recognition….

 

1:0 Russian lesbians are up….

I like sports, any sports. I play basketball and tennis. I play soccer and Ping-Pong.  I don’t like chess or curling. I love hockey. I don’t like shopping for clothe but I love Best Buy.

I love reading books and I love writing, and I totally dig Matrix, CSI, Bones, Numb3rs, Man in Black, and Law & Order (any). Fishing and camping is something I look forward to a lot. I love and respect Mother Nature. I adore animals. I belong to a non profit organization that will end poverty and make sure that every single child is fed and educated.

I do not like Cher, Madona, Britney or Paul Abdul. I love Josh Groban and Celine Dion. I am afraid of heights but I like to challenge myself.

I am against any kind of violence and discrimination and it is not because I am a lesbian.  It is because I am Dace Sevcuna.

“The fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. No heart will suffer if it goes in search of its dreams.”  Somebody said these words that spoke to me.

I have met so many people that are not happy with their lives, jobs, and careers, but not ready or unwilling to change. Imagine, what would happen if we all  followed our dreams. Yes, as simple as that! Unfortunately, we have been consumed by other aspects of our lives and have pushed our dreams aside.  Happiness doesn’t come from things outside, it is born within us, and to experience it, we have to follow the inner calling.

We sometimes wonder if there is something bigger and better for us.  Sometimes we can’t define what it is but we can’t deny the feeling that keeps poking us from within. We look for it, we search but most of the time we come up with nothing.

What it means to be true to yourself? Is it something that can be taught or that is something we have to go looking for? You have to look withing your heart. We are all amazing beings with our passions and ability to make a difference. It doesn’t matter if this difference is something that can be touched, reached for or given to somebody. Sometimes making a difference just means – being yourself, living your life according to your heart.

There is a light within each of us – sometimes it gets dimmed and we get lost and sometimes it is really bright and brings warmth to other people.

Being true to yourself just means – be happy, find things that you care about, don’t turn down opportunities to walk down the road and be proud of yourself for smiling, laughing, loving, caring or just being yourself, whatever that might be.

We often search for answers around us, we turn to other people for guidance and we forget the truth – it is your inner beauty that makes a difference.  People come and go, opinions come and go – you, on the other hand, stay as beautiful as you have always been. You are the light when the darkness embraces the world.

 

“They’re probably the greatest threat to America going down I know of”,  Chris Buttar says in an interview on-camera with filmmaker Reed Cowen taped in Buttars’ official Senate office on January 30th, 2009. To my knowledge for the last 8 years the same thing can be said about George W.  Bush.  For some odd reason till this day there are people who don’t understand that Government and Religion DO NOT mix and SHOULD NOT be mixed.  Human rights have nothing to do with what you believe or don’t believe in. 

When somebody speaks out against a group of citizens, they only degrade their own face as human beings especially if this someone holds a Senator position.

We as society vote for people that we think will represent us and will make sure that decisions government makes are unbiased and stand for equality protecting everybody’s rights.  These decisions should be based not on their personal or religious beliefs but based on the fact that we all should be treated equally, we all should be protected by Law and we all should be responsible for our actions.

Sadly, hateful speech is nothing new to Buttar’s. During debate over a school-funding bill last year, he said “This baby is black.  It’s a dark, ugly thing,” sparking the NAACP to call for his resignation.

These remarks were not made behind closed doors, but openly and unapologetically in front of other people.  A person of deep faith and love for other human beings would never make remarks like these to offend or demean those who are not of the same color, same religion or same sexuality.

LGBT people “are destroying the Constitution.” Really? Is he serious? It is clear to me that the only people who do destroy or have intent to destroy Constitution are people like C. Buttar and G.W. Bush who think that they can bend rules and mold Constitution  to reflect their own religious beliefs.

Constitution ≠ Religious Beliefs

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I am not sure how much I should talk about religion and its influence in my life. Religion is a very tricky subject as I am not very religious.  In some ways, homosexuality and religion goes hand to hand. I don’t mean that one has something to do with the other, but it has been a useless ping pong game between both parties.  

Many of us were raised in strictly religious environment and struggle is undeniable as most of the families either make your life miserable, dishonor you or make you feel guilty for everything  - even breathing.

The book is almost done. However, I can’t make up my mind about the style. I know that I would like this book to be quiet serious, but it would go against everything that I stand for. I am a comedian and I make fun of everything and everybody as no matter how painful our lives are there is always something to smile or joke about. I definitely wouldn’t want this book to be full of jokes. I guess my challenge is to find a middle way.

My childhood was quiet painful and, I guess, that is the reason I do not have many memories. Did I have any happy moments? I don’t know. How do you talk about serious, sad, traumatising things in a funny way? So, I would think that I could be funny without being funny…

“I have a few entries in this blog that could be considered radical or offensive to some people.  However, these entries are there for a reason. When I started to realize that I was gay or even first years of my journey to acceptance, I looked into those topics. I wanted to know if being gay is a disease, if it is something that can be corrected by therapy, drugs or lobotomy. I had to look into the accusations expressed by church, bible and other religious entities. Psychology, psychiatry, church, religion – it is all relevant to my research and understanding, it all leads to clarity. This entry is one of them.”

Myth 1.

The family most likely to produce a homosexual comprises a very intimate, possessive and dominating mother and a detached, hostile father. Many mothers of lesbians tend to be hostile and competitive with their daughters. The fathers of female homosexuals seldom appear to play a dominant role in the family and have considerable difficulty being openly affectionate with their daughters.

According to real life, every single person would be homosexual if we agree with the statement above. There is no family in this world that is perfect. Every single one of them has either dominant father or dominant mother.

Alcoholic, drug addict, and single families should be producing thousands of homosexuals as there is a lack of love from mother, father or both parents. There is abuse – physical and mental. However, in reality there is no research that would prove the statement above. In most cases, an average heterosexual family will have a gay child.

Myth 2 and Myth 3.

Anti-gay activists have routinely asserted that gay people are child molesters.
Homosexuals are dangerous as teachers or youth leaders because they try to get sexually involved with children.

“Child molestation and child sexual abuse are used to describe actual sexual contact between an adult and someone who has not reached the legal age of consent (a child). “ There are no data, for example, showing that gay men and lesbians are more likely than heterosexual men and women to sexually harass or abuse their dependents. Homosexuality is an attraction to same sex ADULTS and not children.

The distinction between a victim’s gender and a perpetrator’s sexual orientation is important because many child molesters don’t really have an adult sexual orientation. They have never developed the capacity for mature sexual relationships with other adults, either men or women. Instead, their sexual attractions focus on children – boys, girls, or children of both sexes.

Read more about the research here: http://psychology.ucdavis.edu/rainbow/HTML/facts_molestation.html

Myth 4.

Improper parenting causes homosexuality

Researchers used to believe that homosexuality stemmed from improper parenting, but this theory is now known to be false. As best we know, what “causes” homosexuality is the same as what causes heterosexuality: the roll of the genetic dice combined with prenatal hormonal influences. Today, the great majority of sex researchers and doctors view homosexuality not as a sexual problem but as a normal sexual variant.

Myth 5.

A person will become homosexual if it is sexuality molested or abused..

There is no research that would prove such a statement. Every two minutes in this world a woman gets raped and that would mean that most of them are going to choose to be gay. Statistically, only 10 – 20 % percent of population is homosexual, bisexual or transgender. If we believe that sexual abuse is a significant contributor then there would be more lesbians out there than heterosexual women.

Myth 5.

Homosexuality can be treated either with medicine or religion.

If that’s true, then it means that heterosexual people can be treated too as it is a sexual orientation and not a choice that somebody has made. Every single article that has been written on: how to treat homosexuality, has been written by a religious person. None of them have been written by a neutral scientist that has provided statistical proof or has done research on this topic – not that I have found in my research. Nevertheless, I have found several so-called “cured” people that ended up going back to their natural sexuality (being gay) or ended up in a mental institution. I have never ever heard, read or met anyone who has been treated and was not talking about Jesus Christ and great GOD and how it is wrong being gay.

There are many more myths about homosexuality and most of them are scientifically proven to be false or untrue.

“I have a few entries in this blog that could be considered radical or offensive to some people.  However, these entries are there for a reason. When I started to realize that I was gay or even first years of my journey to acceptance, I looked into those topics. I wanted to know if being gay is a disease, if it is something that can be corrected by therapy, drugs or lobotomy. I had to look into the accusations expressed by church, bible and other religious entities. Psychology, psychiatry, church, religion – it is all relevant to my research and understanding, it all leads to clarity. This entry is one of them.”

This is such a controversial question and there are so many people looking for THE answer. However, till this day nobody has come up with any that would say: yes, that’s it. This is the reason and this is how, when and why.
As we know, we ask “WHY” about almost anything and everything in our lives. Why me? Why did it happen to me? Why did you do that? Why am I always…? Why wouldn’t you just….and so on and on. Instead of asking questions, “what now” and “what I am going to do with this”, “How am I going to change”, we tend to concentrate our energy on this useless question that will never give us peace anyways. Even if we figure out why, most of the time it’s still not enough.
In case of being gay, this question is asked earlier or later either by ourselves or our parents. There are multiple theories that have amazing explanations and each of them is either twisted by gays themselves or by homophobic people. I find it amusing and sometimes maddening. Although, some of the things people come up with, make me laugh, I still get upset and can’t believe we still have narrow-minded people with all the available information and spirituality.

I understand that there are some very spiritual people who live their lives and love humanity just the way it is and concentrate on making this world a better place. I usually talk about religious people that are on the extreme side and I do not mean to put down or belittle religion or faith in any way.

Growing up gay in a homophobic family was not a walk in the park. It made me question every single thing I did or didn’t do. First, I figured that God had punished me for something. However, no matter how hard I looked back and tried to remember what exactly I had done wrong, I couldn’t come up with anything that could be punished so severely. Then I figured, I was punished for my parents’ mistakes. Well, this explanation was more suitable and applicable to the situation. However, I couldn’t figure out, why I had to pay for their sins? The best part was that you don’t know that something is not right till somebody tells you it is not right. I had no idea I wasn’t supposed to fall in love with women. I didn’t make a choice to like women and I definitely didn’t decide to like women. One day you realize that you have a crush on somebody and it turns out to be a woman.

You can’t tell your heart whom to fall in love with. I have never ever met a person who decided or picked out of a line up or a catalog: “well, today, I think, I will have a crush on this brown eyed model.” Come on, people! You can choose apple sauce off the shelf and you can make a logical decision when it comes to a business partner, a colleague or a car you will buy. But you will not be able to pick a person you want to fall in love with today, tomorrow or in a year!

Being gay is not a choice, it is not a decision and it is not a switch you can turn on and off when you please.

Why would anyone choose to be something that could cause them to be: hated by certain individuals in their society, rejected by their families, or have their rights denied and possibly be subject to violent hate crimes?

“I have a few entries in this blog that could be considered radical or offensive to some people.  However, these entries are there for a reason. When I started to realize that I was gay or even first years of my journey to acceptance, I looked into those topics. I wanted to know if being gay is a disease, if it is something that can be corrected by therapy, drugs or lobotomy. I had to look into the accusations expressed by church, bible and other religious entities. Psychology, psychiatry, church, religion – it is all relevant to my research and understanding, it all leads to clarity. This entry is one of them.”

You and I are so different and so alike at the same time. I am white; you are black, yellow, red or brown. I was born in the northern part of this world; you were born in the south part, in the middle or somewhere else. I speak three languages; you speak 1 or 5, or 8, or maybe 10.

I call my god – a higher power (good spirits), you call your god –God, Allah, Buddha or any other word.

We are so different, but we are the same – we both are human beings and we both believe in greater good. We both believe that there is something better for us in this world; we both believe that we are here to make a difference in our own way. You might be a Christian, Hindu, Jehovah, or atheist. You might believe in God or you might not believe in God, you might be straight, gay, transgender, or bi-sexual. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you believe in. What matters is that you care about people around you! You care if somebody you love is hurting, if a child is crying or a bus hit somebody. You want this world to be a better place for all mankind, so do I. You have your dreams and I have mine and we both have what it takes to make this world a better place to live in for everybody.

I have always been amazed by people who have been looking for differences and trying to find bad in others. How about looking and concentrating on the good that we all have in us despite differences?