As Christmas is rapidly approaching, people suddenly are waking up and remembering that this is when you are supposed to be nice or at least make an effort to be kind.
You would think that somehow there is this little nice person sitting in each of us for the entire year waiting to be let out around holidays. Everyone is smiling, everyone is patient, and everyone takes time to think about what good they could do.
Pardon my cynicism, but one would think that homeless people are hungry only around Christmas. One would think that homeless, abused, and neglected animals show up in shelters only around Christmas. One would think that all elderly people become old at the end of the year.
What good does your kindness do if it is only coming out around holidays?
Maybe kindness needs to start within you. Maybe you need to start being kind to yourself every day. Maybe you should stop beating yourself up and start thinking about how it would be walking a mile in your shoes if you were a stranger. Being kind to yourself, can make your heart skip a beat and make your day brighter.
And once we are being kind to ourselves we will start making everything else around us, including people, nicer.
World is amazing but not in the way you think. And, no, people are not nice. Yes, I will stand by my words – people are not nice. The daily reality has numbed us. We worry about existential problems more than we worry about the person next to us.
People choose to be nice and forcefully remind themselves to let the “nice” part of themselves out once in a blue moon. It’s the guilt that motivates a lot of people to be nice, but when the daily routine sets it, we are just busy and worried…
You could say that there are unicorns (nice all the time) and I even work with a few of them. It makes me suspicious as I am afraid that it is just an exterior and what if those people are hurting so badly that the only way they can get through the day is – to pay attention to other people and not think about their own pain.
Being nice is not easy. It takes a lot of hard work. It takes a lot of patience and a lot of strength to refuse to get pulled in the rat race. In the world that is ruled by consumerisms, ruled by ugly dirty politics, there are a lot of angry overworked people. People who want change, people who worry about ending up on the street if they lose their jobs.
The difference between an average person and a homeless person sometimes is just a paycheck. No paycheck, no rent or mortgage. No rent or mortgage and you are on the street…As simple as that….
You would say that I am bitter but I would argue that I am just realistic. We all know that love almost never wins over hate but we still blindly hope. We all do and there is nothing wrong with that.
Hope and forceful ignorant belief that people will do the right thing is what keeps us living but deep down we all know the truth. But enough of my darkness and party pooper attitude.
At the end of the day, I, like the majority of people out there, choose to believe that kindness is the way to go. It’s like Kindness is some kind of universal language that even deaf people can hear and blind people can see.
Og Mandino had a great idea when he suggested the following: “…..Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again….”