The Grass Is Greener….Nowhere
I guess, it has been passed on from generation to generation that you need to want more than you have. Nobody can explain why but everyone knows that settling is basically admitting defeat.
Of course, we all have dreams and things we may want to do or achieve but sometimes those dreams are not ours. They are there because we live in an illusionary world that the grass is greener somewhere else. Sometimes those are just excuses that we make.
- if I had parents like Joe does, I would have been more family oriented
- if I had a better car, I would have traveled more
- if I could afford a bigger house, I would have started a family
- if I had more money, I would have invested and be rich.
“If I only….” is the best excuse that a humankind has invented. Let’s look at it from a different angle.
If you had parents like Joe, you would be beaten every day just because you exist. Just because his parents were always around and always waved at you from their back yard, doesn’t mean that they were perfect. You are were you are because your parents worked 2 jobs to be able to send you to college. Your Joe ended up doing drugs and died on the street because he couldn’t cope with abusive parents.
If you had a better car, you would have not traveled more. You do not need a better car, you need to save your money and budget better. A better car has never been a major reason somebody couldn’t travel as there are other ways to do it.
And this goes on and on. You can do whatever you want with your life. However, sometimes it works out and sometimes it is just not supposed happen. So, stop trying to open the door that is locked and look around, there might be another door that is available.
No, this is not about the lie that you have heard – as harder you work, as faster you will achieve what you want. Sometimes stuff just doesn’t happen. And sometimes your dreams are just a lie that you tell yourself to find an excuse not to do something.
The grass is never greener somewhere else. The grass is green where you are. You can make it greener by taking your own path. Sometimes that path takes you down the rabbit hole where it is dark and scary but nevertheless exciting.
Once you learn to accept what you have and go with the flow of life, you put an end to drama. After all, life is an adventure and not a curse.