Secret In Your Eyes

We all have a journey but not all of us have a destination. For some odd reason some people think that everything we do in life leads us to some kind of mystic happiness.  Not everybody realizes that happiness is a journey not a destination.

Even funnier is when people think that everybody needs to follow the same rule – you need to do something to get somewhere and that somewhere is definitely a destination and that destination always is happiness. It does get even better – that something is a meaning of your life or an understanding why you are here, what you are meant to do or be, and that is when you reach the ultimate goal – HAPPINESS.

But guess what – you get there and you are still not happy. Of course, that must mean that you didn’t fully properly defined what that something you need to do or have is, so, back to the drawing board.

Bzzzzzzzzt……wrong answer….

Happiness is a journey and not a destination. That changes the whole game.

If what matters is a journey and not a destination, then the path you choose better be good. I do not mean, accepted and approved by everybody – relatives, friends, society. I mean, it better be good for you. It better be the one that you look at at the end and gasp for air in excitement:” GSUS, what a ride!”.

Honestly, how being a rich person is different from being a homeless person? It is not. It is a different journey, a different path. Being rich just means that you are addicted to things, money, and status, and you have chosen a different path to get where you are going. Being homeless means that you have different things that you are addicted to. You may not have a roof over your head but that is just an illusion that having a house, a job, a credit card is better than having a paper bag with a bottle of rum in it.

When you die, it will not matter anymore. Who cares how you got there? What matters is – was it a hell of a ride and did you get a kick out of it?

As humans, we have a tendency to judge. We keep comparing things and people to some idealistic illusions on what our life should look like even though nobody has a clue – what the meaning of life is or what our purpose is.

I guess, the moral of the story is – Stop trying to do the right thing. Listen to your heart and enjoy whatever comes.

What does this post have to do with the subject – secret in your eyes? Everything and nothing. When you feel lost or you get overwhelmed with the information and expectations that come from people around you, remember, you know the truth – it is your journey, not theirs. Look into your own eyes, into your soul, take a deep breath, figure out what your heart wants to do and take a plunge.

Again, you should not live a life that others think you should. You should take your own path, you should fall, trip, succeed, drown, take drugs, drink, become a millionaire, live on the street, marry five times or don’t marry at all, have or don’t have kids, buy a house or two or live in a tent, have worms as your pets… It is not about being weird or being an outcast, it is about taking your own journey that will end up in death. Nobody escapes death…so take the journey that catches your breath, that brings joy and happiness.

As some smart intelligent people have said: “…when you came into this world, you cried and everyone else laughed and smiled. So, live your life the way that when you die, you are the one laughing and everyone else crying…” It translates to – enjoy your life.


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5 responses to “Secret In Your Eyes”

  1. Billy says :

    Very, very true.

  2. sheridegrom - From the literary and legislative trenches. says :

    Definitely food to ponder. My favorite sister-in-law passed this weekend and I often thought she was selfish in many of the ways she lived her life but in thinking about what you’ve said above, perhaps she was living her life to make herself and those she loved happy. Of one thing I know to be true and therefore I always loved her, she loved my brother passionately and would do most anything to make him happy. They had wonderful times together and until they married later in life, he had never been truly happy. Who am I to call her selfish, I’m selfish in my own ways also. Thanks for another thought provoking blog.

    • Dace says :

      as we all know Sheri, we all are self centered, egotistical beings, and that should be that way. And I am not saying that to justify my or somebody else’s behavior.
      You can be selfish but still give a lot to the world around you.
      When you think about it, life is too short and our priority is to be happy and enjoy every single moment of what is given to us.
      Unfortunately, we all are selfish and self centered and think we deserve the attention, and that means that there will always be someone who gets hurt in a process.

  3. Noora says :

    It’s always a pleasure to read your posts, Dace. Thank you!

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