Recipe To Unhappiness
I found a great article today: “7 Strange Questions That Help You Find Your Life Purpose“. I hope it reaches many searching souls and starts a conversation.
“What do I want to do with my life?”
“What am I passionate about?”
“What’s my purpose?”
Those are not questions you need to ask as they will get you nowhere. Life is not a destination, life is a journey. It has been written in books, it has been printed on T-Shirts and it has been a selling point for all kinds of businesses that thrive in “Self-help” and ” I will hold your hand till you find your calling” world.
Humans are a changing entity. We are like a river that flows faster or slower, changes directions, dries out or overflows. We do not stay the same. And because of this infinite change, passion or purpose changes. Sometimes daily, sometimes yearly, sometimes hourly.
There is no higher purpose than enjoying whatever seems interesting or important right now. You live for this moment as next moment might not come. Even if you find what you are passionate about today, tomorrow that passion will morph into something else. It will take a different direction, it will change, it will grow, and it will expand.
If you recognize that everything or everybody who comes into your life is all for you, you will be much better off going with the flow and seeing where it takes you, than trying to find definite answers to questions.
Mark Manson mentions in his article:
Part of the problem is the concept of “life purpose” itself. The idea that we were each born for some higher purpose and it’s now our cosmic mission to find it. This is the same kind of shitty logic used to justify things like spirit crystals or that your lucky number is 34 (but only on Tuesdays or during full moons).
I would say that we are born with a higher purpose and this higher purpose is to live and enjoy every moment of your life. Even if that is talking to crystals. If that is what makes you happy today, do it. As long as you have the clarify and awareness of the flow of life and as long as you are not stuck in a world of false beliefs, you will be fine.
False beliefs like you have to fit in, you can’t embarrass your parents, you have to do the right thing, and you have to be a valuable part of the society (meaning that you have to do this or that or something else like everyone else does).
If you have been going down the path of asking questions mentioned above, stop it. Seriously, just stop. Replace those questions with:
What makes me happy today?
But if that is a huge leap for you, at least add a word today to those questions. What do I want to do with my life today? What am I passionate about today? What’s my purpose today?