This is kind of a hot topic and most of the people have their own opinion. However, as we all know it is either a positive one or a negative one. Just because I am, more or less, bias on this topic or to be more precise, I believe that it doesn’t matter if you have two fathers, two mothers, single mother or father or you have a mother and a father, I decided to do some googling.
So, the most common concerns people have are:
– How the children will be raised and how they will feel about themselves and their parents?
– Will they be embarrassed because they have two mothers or two fathers, or because their single mother dates women or their unmarried father has a boyfriend?
– Will their friends tease them?
– Will they be more likely to be homosexual than children raised by heterosexual parents?
– How will having been raised by gay or lesbian parents affect them as they grow into adulthood?
Unfortunately, there is no research available that was done by a neutral party that could present reliable end results. The research is done either by gay friendly or anti gay researchers, so…nothing to base my opinion on. And I think it is important to acknowledge that we truly do not have any scientific data that is un-bias and that would prove or disapprove a statement that there is no difference in development or personality in children that are raised by gay parents or heterosexual parents.
I would like to believe that it actually doesn’t matter who raises a child as parents are not the only role models children encounter during their development and growth. Uncles, aunts, male and female teachers interact with children and expose them to all kinds of experiences and interpersonal relationships. That would make me believe that a child growing up with either two mommies or two daddies or one mommy or one daddy or with grandpa and grandma still learn what is right and wrong and what it means to be a good person, and that love is unconditional.
The bottom line is that being gay is not a choice and it is not something that you could teach somebody. Sexuality is not taught or chosen, so it doesn’t matter if you have heterosexual or homosexual parents as long as you are loved. You can’t teach somebody to be gay or straight.
I know that based on the fact that technically gay parents can’t have their own biological children, parenthood is something that is carefully considered and planned and not an accident as sometimes it happens in heterosexual relationships. That should tell you that two people have thought about it, planned it, prepared for it and really want a child and that this child will be loved and expected. Yes, in these relationships children grow up more tolerant and open minded towards differences but it doesn’t imply that they lack spirituality or religion.