Myths About Being Or Becoming Gay

“I have a few entries in this blog that could be considered radical or offensive to some people.  However, these entries are there for a reason. When I started to realize that I was gay or even first years of my journey to acceptance, I looked into those topics. I wanted to know if being gay is a disease, if it is something that can be corrected by therapy, drugs or lobotomy. I had to look into the accusations expressed by church, bible and other religious entities. Psychology, psychiatry, church, religion – it is all relevant to my research and understanding, it all leads to clarity. This entry is one of them.”

Myth 1.

The family most likely to produce a homosexual comprises a very intimate, possessive and dominating mother and a detached, hostile father. Many mothers of lesbians tend to be hostile and competitive with their daughters. The fathers of female homosexuals seldom appear to play a dominant role in the family and have considerable difficulty being openly affectionate with their daughters.

According to real life, every single person would be homosexual if we agree with the statement above. There is no family in this world that is perfect. Every single one of them has either dominant father or dominant mother.

Alcoholic, drug addict, and single families should be producing thousands of homosexuals as there is a lack of love from mother, father or both parents. There is abuse – physical and mental. However, in reality there is no research that would prove the statement above. In most cases, an average heterosexual family will have a gay child.

Myth 2 and Myth 3.

Anti-gay activists have routinely asserted that gay people are child molesters.
Homosexuals are dangerous as teachers or youth leaders because they try to get sexually involved with children.

“Child molestation and child sexual abuse are used to describe actual sexual contact between an adult and someone who has not reached the legal age of consent (a child). “ There are no data, for example, showing that gay men and lesbians are more likely than heterosexual men and women to sexually harass or abuse their dependents. Homosexuality is an attraction to same sex ADULTS and not children.

The distinction between a victim’s gender and a perpetrator’s sexual orientation is important because many child molesters don’t really have an adult sexual orientation. They have never developed the capacity for mature sexual relationships with other adults, either men or women. Instead, their sexual attractions focus on children – boys, girls, or children of both sexes.

Read more about the research here: http://psychology.ucdavis.edu/rainbow/HTML/facts_molestation.html

Myth 4.

Improper parenting causes homosexuality

Researchers used to believe that homosexuality stemmed from improper parenting, but this theory is now known to be false. As best we know, what “causes” homosexuality is the same as what causes heterosexuality: the roll of the genetic dice combined with prenatal hormonal influences. Today, the great majority of sex researchers and doctors view homosexuality not as a sexual problem but as a normal sexual variant.

Myth 5.

A person will become homosexual if it is sexuality molested or abused..

There is no research that would prove such a statement. Every two minutes in this world a woman gets raped and that would mean that most of them are going to choose to be gay. Statistically, only 10 – 20 % percent of population is homosexual, bisexual or transgender. If we believe that sexual abuse is a significant contributor then there would be more lesbians out there than heterosexual women.

Myth 5.

Homosexuality can be treated either with medicine or religion.

If that’s true, then it means that heterosexual people can be treated too as it is a sexual orientation and not a choice that somebody has made. Every single article that has been written on: how to treat homosexuality, has been written by a religious person. None of them have been written by a neutral scientist that has provided statistical proof or has done research on this topic – not that I have found in my research. Nevertheless, I have found several so called “cured” people that ended up going back to their natural sexuality (being gay) or ended up in a mental institution. I have never ever heard, read or met anyone who has been treated and was not talking about Jesus Christ and great GOD and how it is wrong being gay.

There are many more myths about homosexuality and most of them are scientifically proven to be false or untrue.

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